Are you choosing to be the victim?
The mind has more power than you realise! Consider that your own thoughts are the result of how you feel right now. How you feel right now is not due to that external event/happening, it is due to your thoughts about that external event/happening.
Lets assume you have just received notice that your bank balance is overdrawn. Ok this is not good news but how you react to it will determine your mood. Now you can choose to be angry, hurt, fearful or sad, or all four but this wont change anything. Or you could choose to sit down and work out the best way to get through this. The first option makes you the victim, the second option puts you in control.